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As a single woman, there are few phrases I honestly HATE to hear! I mean, I’ve been single a while and these things just never get old. So I figured I’d share a few phrases and enlighten you. My prayer is that you take this list, meditate on it and try not to tell another single person any of these statements or questions! Here we go!
Why are you still single?
I usually have to catch myself from giving people a serious side eye and/or a loud, drawn out sigh of annoyance. You don’t think we ask ourselves this question all the time? I get that it may be a compliment of sorts, puzzled that a woman with a degree, house, job, and no children could still be out on the market, but hey, such is life. Many of us have cried and prayed, prayed and cried about why we are still single. And some of us may even know exactly why we’re single, but you asking, doesn’t ease the wait or change our relationship status any quicker!
Your Boaz is coming!
Listen! There are other men in the Bible besides Boaz! Shout out to my sister who wrote the article “What If God Doesn’t Send Your Boaz?” When did Boaz become the gold standard, I mean Jesus was the one that died on the cross, right!? And how about Moses, David, Noah, Abraham, Job! All men with flaws, but a call on their life and a commitment to God. I’ll take whoever God sends. As long as his name is husband!
You’re too pretty to be single!
Now this statement usually comes from my senior saints, who simply can’t believe how beautiful and single I am! I take the compliment, and I acknowledge that God has blessed me with good looks and a smile to knock them dead, but unfortunately, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. There is a plethora of beautiful women I know who are amazing and still single, so I’m in good company! We’ll just keep being pretty and wait!
Just keep waiting on the Lord
Because I love the Lord, I try not to cuss when people tell me this statement. Believe me, my entire life has been waiting on the Lord. And the way my life is set up, I don’t have time NOT to wait on Him. I refuse to settle and end up with a statistical marriage ending in divorce. I read the Bible, I know what God says. I may have my moments, but, if you haven’t seen my shirts, I remind myself daily, “I’ll Wait.”
Do you have any children?
This statement usually comes before they ask me if I’m married, which bothers me the most. Society has warped our minds on the order of family and therefore redirects our thoughts and values. Shout out to all the single mothers, you are the real MVP, but that’s not the life I desire! Check my ring status first before asking me this question!
Maybe you should lower your standards a bit
Another statement that provokes the cussing spirit! The devil is busy! Listen, you have no idea how many times I’ve adjusted my list of desires, wants and needs. It don’t get no simpler than love the Lord, have a job, and respect me. They usually get tripped up at the “love the Lord” piece, and that’s one standard I will NEVER lower. EVER!
You know your biological clock is ticking
The way my God is set up, he was giving women babies in their 80s and 90s. Not my desire by no means, but I serve a God who is not restricted to the “biological clock” time and neither am I. When God sees fit to bless my womb with a child, He will do so in His perfect timing. To all my doctors, momma, daddy, and all others with this mindset, know that the biological clock theory does not phase me one bit! Spare me!
So, what do you think you’re doing wrong?
Contrary to what people think, every single person is NOT doing something wrong. We’re not all crazy, can’t keep a man, have attitudes, or are “too much.” We may just be single by choice: our choice or by God’s choice. And God’s choice happens to be the one that truly matters. Think before you speak. It saves lives!
I just want some grand babies
Dear momma, I love you! I really do! But I may not show up to the next family function if I hear this statement one more time. With everything in me I want to give my parents grand babies. I want to bring that joy to their lives! But this statement is nothing but a constant reminder of what we haven’t been able to provide. Believe us, we want the kids more than you do!
Maybe marriage is not for you
Life and death is in the power of the tongue. Be careful what you attempt to speak over someone’s life simply because of the current circumstance you see them in. Prolonged singleness does not negate the promise given. If God says I’m suppose to be married then it will be so, even if I get married at age sixty. But I’m not claiming that Lord! LOL
What statements and/or questions do you hate to hear as a single person?