I remember admiring a young lady at my church who had beautiful dreadlocks. They were jet black, thick, long, and hitting her lower back. And then one Sunday they were gone! She’d cut them, permed her hair, and rocked a short pixie cut that was everything. She changed up just like that.
She simply said, “Girl, its just hair. It will grow back!” She freed me.
I’ve literally tried every hair style imaginable, but I’ve been natural for the last 8 years. I enjoy various looks and the ability to change up with wigs, protective styles, dreads, etc, but my edges have hated me for it all. But with everything in me, my change was not just about my hair, but life. CoCo Chanel said it best, “a woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.”A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life. ~ CoCo Chanel Click To Tweet
Here’s three reasons why I decided to cut my hair and go back to a perm, AKA “creamy crack:”
It’s just hair
I’ve never been wedded to my hair and it doesn’t define me. It’s definitely a crown to a woman’s head, but I’m a queen with or without it. As I see so many women walking around rocking the fade or bald look, we have evolved! It’s just hair. And whether I cut it all off, or rock it down to my butt with braids or a weave, I rock it, it doesn’t rock me! It’s about the confidence in however you choose to wear your hair. And in this season of my life, I choose to rock it permed, short and flipped to the side.
I’m relaxed and my hair needs to relax too
The big question I get asked is why I went back to a perm. I have no deep answer except, “I’m relaxed and I wanted my hair to be relaxed too.” Whoever said going natural was easier than having a perm LIED!! Having natural hair is hard work; work I put in for 8 years. Finding the right product that will bring about moisture and the right curl pattern, detangling and deep conditioning,twisting and braiding, my hair was tired, and I was too.
I’m in a more relaxed state of mind and simply desire less stress. And honestly, my hair was stressing me out. I need my edges to take a break and simply relax, lay down, and rest. It’s my goal to improve my edges and eventually return to the natural style at some point. But for now, me and my hair are chilling, literally!
I want to look like the change I expect
Many know I’m on a 90- Dating Fast. I’m on day 43 to be exact. But outside of desiring a change in my dating life, I’m expecting a shift in my life in general. So in order to stay in an expectation of change, I wanted to look the part as well. God has me in this place of stepping out on faith and expectation. I’m not all the way there yet, but I want to look the part as I approach the new place. It simply reminds of what I desire, want, and actually need, a change!
Take a look at my hair journey!!