I recently had a little talk with Jesus, to tell him all about my troubles. I was having a moment, asking the Lord why! Why was I still single? I wasn’t understanding!
And then I began to realize that ALL of my close friends are single with no kids and have never been married. It wasn’t an epiphany, but a fact, and I began to wonder if something was wrong.
With this new year up on us, was it time to change up my circle? Did I need to make adjustments in who I was hanging around and spending time with? They say your environment greatly influences your life, and honestly, I want that marriage influence. Does that mean I need to change my friends?
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn coined the phrase, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” And he was right! When you add and divide zero husbands and zero children five different ways, it averages out to zero, or in our case, still single!You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. ~Jim Rohn Click To Tweet
But as I continued to ponder and figure out what I needed to do, I realized, It wasn’t time to change my friends, it was time to change my perspective!
My friends are so much more than just single women. They are entrepreneurs, home owners, and college educated bosses!
Within the last year, two of my friends purchased their own homes, by themselves, with one friend preparing to purchase within this year. Several of my friends are business owners, and one friend is an author.
I had to get over it! Making changes and adjustments in friends and relationships is so much bigger than a person’s relationship status. How do your friends bring you value? How do they pour into you, challenge you, and support you? Yes, they all may be single, but God may have you around each other to provide support and encouragement until the husbands come.
My friends and I talk about dating and relationships quite often and I’m beyond grateful they all can relate. When I tell them about the guy not calling me back, I hear, “girl, I feel you!” Or when I tell them to pray for me because I’m feeling lonely, they get it and go to God on my behalf.
It is absolutely still important to engage yourself with married couples who can give wisdom and insight into where you desire to be, but it’s also important to appreciate where you are and who God has placed around you.
God gives you who and what you need for the season you are in.God gives you who and what you need for the season you are in. Click To Tweet
Who knows, 2018 may be the year God begins to drop those husbands down on us and we can celebrate that together. But until then, I will change my perspective, appreciate where I am, and prepare for where God is going to take me! And I encourage you to do the same!