“I’ll finally be able to have guilt free sex.”
“A double income will finally help me get out of debt.”
“I’ll have someone to come home to at night.”
“I can finally have the wedding I’ve always wanted.”
“I’ll have a partner to travel and do things with instead of always going with my girls.”
All statements I’ve made down the years in my “why” for desiring marriage. And to be honest, all those statements are true, to a certain extent. But they should not be the sole or top reason anyone should ever want to get married.
I had the privilege of attending a friend’s vow renewal and 10th wedding anniversary celebration this past Saturday. It was beyond a blessing. I witnessed 10 years of God’s grace and mercy in one moment and I was reminded of God’s purpose for marriage, to show His ultimate love for his people.
I hadn’t known the couple long, a few months to be exact, but in connecting with the wife, she shared a bit of their ups and downs and explained how God had kept them through it all. Listening to their vows, watching her husband shed tears of joy and commitment, and their little girl running around the altar, God was their foundation. And for that, they were still standing!
Sitting in my seat and admiring them from a far, God reminded me of my ‘why’. For so long my desires came from my insecurities, financial instability, and my uncontrolled sexual desires. I wanted marriage to meet my needs and fill my voids; not realizing that marriage can do no such thing outside of God.
We must have a healthy and biblical “why” when desiring marriage. With much prayer, seeking God, surrounding myself with godly couples with wisdom and knowledge, my ‘why’ for marriage is:
To partner with a godly man in the ministry of marriage, in order to:
1) Bring God glory
2) Bring forth children who will bring God glory
3) Fulfill the purpose and plans of God as a couple for his glory
You pick up a theme? Marriage is not about you, me, or your future husband. It’s ALL for God’s glory. So what’s your ‘why’ for marriage? I challenge you to write it down and post it somewhere in your home, office, or car so that you have visual intention and a constant reminder of your desires. I believe God will honor that and more as you stay #marriageminded!