As we prepare for our Brunch & Vision: “He Said” Edition event next Saturday, September 23, I wanted to start a “He Said” edition to the blog by interviewing various men; getting their perspective on love, dating, and relationships. They say, if you want to know what a man thinks, ask him!
Meet Brandon Mckay, a writer, blogger, author, and entrepreneur from Washington, D.C. He is the CEO and founder of Mckay Media Works, LLC and World Wide Mckay, LLC.
What inspires you to write?
Writing has always been something that brought me joy naturally. I’ve always been a thinker with something to say. I found myself immersed with self expression through writing when I was a child and it never left me. The itch to write has grown exponentially as I grew older. I’ve embraced the call to make writing something I want to spend my entire life doing. I want to share what’s in the treasure chest of my heart with the hope that I inspire and encourage as many people as I can to live unapologetically great.I want to share what's in the treasure chest of my heart with the hope that I inspire and encourage as many people as I can to live unapologetically great.~@WriterBW_Mc Click To Tweet
With being an entrepreneur, what challenges have you faced and how do you overcome them?
Being an entrepreneur is very challenging. I always have to overcome the notion that I don’t feel like I know enough about several aspects of business. I’m always in learning mode which feeds my obsessive nature. What can I say, I am a perfectionist. Since I have to wear many hats, it can be overwhelming trying to juggle everything. My time is super tight and is partitioned down to the very small detail just so I can have enough time to take care of my physical needs (Food, sleep, etc.)
You seem like a busy man with a lot on his plate? Do you find time to date or have a romantic life? If so, how is it going for you?
Well, I am actually married and that makes it even harder. I have to juggle trying to be successful with making sure I’m there for my wife who needs me to be “Brandon the husband,” not “Brandon the soon to be New York Times best selling Entrepreneur guru guy.” Its so hard sometimes to step away and just watch a movie with her because I’m always wrapped up in my endeavors. Its a delicate balancing act that I am still trying to figure out. Being only 2 years into the married game and young, I really want to master this aspect of life.
Did you find dating in the DMV region to be difficult? Why or why not?
When I did date, I didn’t find it too difficult. I think the DMV is home to quality women if you ask me.
What are some stereotypes you believe men, particularly black men, receive when it comes to relationships, dating, and/or marriage?
One of the stereotypes is that we are womanizers, cheaters and only want sex. While that may be true for some men, I know a few guys who want more than just a physical connection. I’m sure many would say the latter is the minority, but I have placed myself around men who want more out of life.
What are your thoughts on marriage and its value in society today?
Being a married man myself, I believe marriage is very important. It is very valuable to the black family and for the stability of the home.
Is there a particular time frame, such as a level of career or financial success, that a man finally decides he’s ready to settle down? Is he ever really ready?
“Ready” is a tricky word because it’s so subjective and means something different to different people. I think you’ll go through phases of feeling ready and not feeling ready depending on the situation. You always want to make sure you are fiscally ready to be able to hold down your home but there is always the lure of “missing out” on the dating game, especially if a majority of your friends are single or just dating. For me, my wife was my friend for a long time and I tried to get at her for years until she gave me a chance. It worked out well for me. But once I got her, I made sure to put a ring on it. Having stability means more to me than anything else.
What are your thoughts on the state of “black love” today?
I think black love is growing in some ways and in some ways it’s not. Confusing, right? On one hand I see alot of brothers finding their queens and settling down. Then on the other hand there is a surge of women who believe they don’t need a man. I’ve seen this a lot from our highly career and education-oriented women. It appears that its 50/50.
What are you looking for in a woman?
I’ve found what I was looking for in a queen. What mattered most to me was loyalty, compassion and openness. These traits were absolute musts. I watched my parents fight and argue all the time and that opened my eyes to what I didn’t want.
As a man, what is one thing you would want all women, particularly single women, to know?
You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to try to make yourself become an IG model. We enjoy you just as you are.You don't have to be perfect. You don't have to try to make yourself become an IG model. We enjoy you just as you are. ~ @WriterBW_Mc Click To Tweet
What’s next on your plate as you continue to pursue your goals?
I am getting ready to launch my book in the next few months, which I believe will launch me into my new phase of life as a writer/author by occupation.
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