Is the Christian life really not that appealing? Are we really not that entertaining if we were actually depicted on television living according to the Bible and the principles of God?
I took the liberty of checking out the new Netflix series “She’s Gotta Have It,” created by Spike Lee, shadowing his 1986 film by the same name, a movie I’d never seen before. I guess my black card is revoked?
It’s another drama series chronicling the life of a single black women seeking love, acceptance, juggling life, and trying to find herself all at the same time. I’m always interested in watching, simply to see another perspective on the life I live everyday, but I kind of regret it.
In watching, eyes frequently covered with my blanket because television just can’t seem to make a series about relationships without explicit sex scenes with heterosexual and homosexual couples, I realized, it’s really not my life. (Read 3 Ways To Flee Temptation While Watching Your Favorite Show.)
Although the main character, Nola Darling, is a young, single, black woman pursuing her goals and dreams, trying to make an impact in this world with her talents and gifts outside of the bedroom, our similarities stop there. Well, maybe our taste in men are similar. Each of the guys she “dated” I found attractive and appealing. Yes, even Mars!
I appreciated the message of being a woman of freedom and choice, making your own rules, living your own way, but why does that freedom always seem to include frequent sexual partners/activity and a lack of a spiritual foundation replaced by a “higher being?”
Am I jealous of the amount of sex and pleasure she was getting? I’d be lying if I said I didn’t slightly envy her escapades, but believe me, its going down with my husband one day, but I digress.
I simply just want to see myself on television and truly relate. Not just a single black woman, but a single black Christian woman trying to live this life God’s way in a secular world. A single black woman that doesn’t have sex, but struggles daily on dying to her flesh, trying to date, pursuing her goals, coming home to an empty place, and listening to her mother pray while at the same time, attempting to pawn her off on any available bachelor she comes across. Can we be on TV?? A single black woman that struggles with her celibacy but abstains, has friends who are doing the same. I want to really see me, not every other woman who gives in to their sexual desires regularly to “express herself” and to be “free.”
I’ve watched “Being Mary Jane,” “Insecure,” and “She’s Gotta Have It,” in support of black women, black shows, black creators, gaining material for my blog on relationships, relating at times, but cringing at other times.
I, in no way judge these characters because I’ve been them at some point in my life, and the creators are simply catering to what they believe is the majority population, but with growth, my desire for more depth increases. I promise I’ve prayed and said, Lord they just need Jesus. Seriously! I’ve had my moments of being Issa, Molly, Nola, and Mary Jane. But God! The Holy Spirit leads, guides, and convicts, and my life was steered in a different direction.
Call it naive if you want, but I’m very clear that every Christian is NOT a virgin living a perfect life, and these shows actually DO depict the lives of some women who claim to be Christians sitting on the front row of a church, but there’s a standard set by God, and I’d simply like to see more of it, rather than the latter, in a television show. This single woman needs that encouragement!
I don’t gain encouragement through these shows, but I find myself doing more self-evaluation and check in sessions when I do watch, in order to do better and be better.
Black women are so intricate, complex, amazing, and different all at the same time. I’d simply like to see more of that portrayed with less of their sexuality and bodies being at the forefront of the show.
Freedom is bigger than sexuality. It’s embracing the fullness of who God called you to be and walking in that daily! Now that, I gotta have!