I met a married couple a few months ago who had plastic wedding bands. Literally you could squeeze their rings out of shape and they’d bounce back to their original circular form. There were no diamonds or gold bands, just plastic. Like, pick a toy out of the McDonald’s happy meal type plastic. Like, maybe they spent $5 on the rings type plastic. And $5 maybe even pushing it.
They further explained that their marriage wasn’t defined by jewelry. Why spend thousands of dollars on something that is material, compared to the amazing commitment and covenant agreement they made with God and each other on their wedding day?
And then I met a gentleman I was quite attracted to. He had a smile that took me out of this world. But as he drew closer, I noticed a wedding band. As we talked and I inquired about his wife, he had no problem sharing about her and their family, yet his body language and demeanor gave me all the indication that he was interested. If given the chance, he would have pursued me. His ring was simply jewelry.
Now I’m confused. Do wedding rings mean much to anyone anymore more? Are rings no longer a form of commitment, status, and fidelity? Should they be? Are they necessary to show that commitment, or should your commitment speak louder than your jewelry?
I’ve never been a huge jewelry type chick, but I’ve always been a truth and honesty, fidelity and trust type girl, always. Before I want the ring I simply want the commitment, trust, loyalty, and love to be established and a foundation of our relationship.
It seems these days that marriage is more of a to-do list rather than a life-long commitment to another and to God. For some, its simply an agreement with jewelry as an incentive to perpetrate in front of those who truly have no stock or say-so in your life at all.
Weddings seem to be a symbol of achievement, yet people are failing at it everyday. So, why not wear the plastic rings. Why not, invest in the actual relationship rather than the symbol that wears away, tarnishes, and means nothing when it is all said and done.
I’m no longer thrilled and engulfed in the engagements and over the top weddings that happen all year round. As Mali Music wrote so perfectly, I want to see that “Heavy Love.” That thirty and forty year marriage type of love. That not-so perfect, but basically perfect type love. That love, when whether you have a ring on or not, you’re coming home to me type love. That love that doesn’t end. That love that gets tired, frustrated, weary, wounded, but will never leave you type love.
I was inspired by the married couple and their choice of plastic over conformity to the norm of societal materialism. But I was also saddened by my brother who chose jewelry with a lack of commitment and loyalty to back it up.
Let’s be real. The rings are traditional, flashy, and a way in which to display to the world your love that we have no idea about unless we actually see it played out. Actions speak louder than words and jewelry.
So whether you decide to wear jewelry, get plastic rings, or simply go without, make sure your commitment speaks louder than your ring! Make sure if you take the ring, you take the commitment along with it. And most of all, make sure you seek God before thinking about giving or taking a ring from anyone. He’s the best discerner of the plan and person He has for your life, and the sustainer of the marriage that is suppose to be forever!
Would you wear plastic rings or go without rings if you were married?